[quote:dc7684d0cd="siren72"]nicole!

where are you going? =( i'm obviously out of the loop...

t.t.[/quote:dc7684d0cd]

it's back to reality for me. I am on my way back to Mexico where I am on a one year contract as a teacher (I'm half done). Rest assured I will do everything possible to be back in your lovely city as soon as possible.

~nicole g

living in cape breton is teh sux0rs.

plans for today didn't plan out. i'm cleaning out my book shelf instead of sticking here.

Turns out the reason the picture was so weird on my DVD player was that the red cable was unplugged. I finally clued in while watching QAF on DVD, and noticing that not only was everything unusually blue-y and yellow-y, but that the rainbow in the logo was only blue and yellow... plus someone described some grey-ish pants as "orange"... turned out they were orange, once I plugged the red cable back in.

Ahhhh! I'm really, really scared right now! I need help! I need help with a boy issue, and it sickens me! He's like, a really great friend of mine (we met last year though some of our mutual friends, and, y�know... drama club). But, yeah, I�m really torn, because one of my other greatest friends sort of has a thing for him. The other day I was speaking with them both on MSN and I told her that she needed to tell him because if she didn�t she�d go insane (much like myself at the moment). She told him, and he doesn�t feel the same way, even though he kissed her (oh yeah, I was so proud of myself when I heard the kissing news, because I wasn�t jealous, but I was so happy for her, because she was happy. Yay for me!). Any-who, the point is (roughly) that I don�t think I should tell him how I feel, partly because I don�t want my girlfriend to be hurt, and partly because I don�t want things to be awkward between any of us, and partly because I have virtually zero confidence in myself, even though this guy tells me that he and I are the only cool people left on the planet (he obviously hasn�t been acquainted with any of you). I spend a lot of time with both of them, and most of the guys in our group have gone out with most of the girls, and things aren�t awkward at all (which you�d think I�d interpret as a sign that we�re all good enough friends to not lose one another over stupid grade 9 �relationships�). So... What on earth is a girl to do?

EDIT: One more thing : Our friend told me that when "the guy" found out that I emailed my number to his friend to make plans, he ran back into his house, hacked into his email, and programmed my number into his phone. But, I don't think it's a big deal. I mean, that's what friends do... maybe? Thoughts? Advice? Fun-making?

hi there rachel,

it's a bit hard to give you advice not knowing how old you are, because i'd advise a 35-year old woman on this differently than i would a 17-year old... oh wait, i just re-read your post and it looks like you're in grade nine. okay - i would recommend that you [i:d5653d3888]say nothing[/i:d5653d3888]. believe me, this comes from years and years of experience! there is nothing worse than ruining a wonderful friendship by treading water that one of you is not ready to tread. no matter how well the person takes the news of your feelings, if they are unrequited, the dynamic of your relationship is irrevocably altered.

it's true that guys can be shy, but that's usually with girls they're admiring from afar, not with someone who's already a good friend. if this guy is interested in you, he'll suggest just the two of you doing things together, he will rev up the flirting, he'll start touching you more. if he doesn't do those things, assume that it's friendship only that he wants. [i:d5653d3888]especially[/i:d5653d3888] since he kissed the other chick! he doesn't seem interested in more than playing around at this point, which could ultimately leave you heartbroken if you spill your guts.

my aunt told me something years ago that has stuck with me - "remember that you are worthy of being pursued." it's so true! girls are so often willing to completely beg for a man's attention whereas men seldom abandon their self-respect in the same way. if you're a great girl, you shouldn't have to do the chasing! he should realize that an amazing potential girlfriend is already in his life and take the first step towards making a more significant relationship happen. do not spend your time stroking his ego, do not spend your time making him feel that he is more important to you than you are to him. his feelings for you will either evolve naturally or they won't. let him recognize what he has.

just my 2 cents. =)

t.t.

Your wisdom makes my throat dry up. :P And not to worry, the last thing I'd do is stroke his ego or lie at his feet. And, I mean, I'm just a kid, so I'm not really into all the "serious high school relationship" thing. But, you're right. I probably wasn't going to tell him anyway. I mean, no one knows but you people. Most of the time when I'm with him, it's really great that we're 'just friends', and we can just play around, but at times I just wish above everything else that there was just like a button to push to make him get out of my head, or something. But, anyway... it'll be done with eventually.

have you had sex yet?

Good luck to you, whatever you decide to do in the end Rachel.

I listened to CBC radio for most of the afternoon.

Have I had sex yet? Haha. No I can't say that I have. I am still a littlun, of a mere 15 years. But, that's not saying much.

But, MOVING ON! How about that local sports team, huh?

moving on, playbuilding/writing camp today. all week. woo, this is so fun. HBP shipped saturday night.

Rach, those sort of things always seem to happen. You might want to tell your gf that you like him aswell. that way if you do decide to tell him sometime she has atleast some time to deal with things and understanding to what you were going through.

$0.02

Cameron Bay.

[quote:fba35a4b74="hellothere"]have you had sex yet?[/quote:fba35a4b74]

today? alas, no.

:P

...jim

seriously though....I'll echo Siren's comments Rachel.

There will be LOTS of boys that will be interested in you and show it. Don't fret too much.

Having said that, just like you're unsure and not quite as confident as you will someday be, the same applies to boys. Quite possibly even more so. Its NOT your average 15 y.o. boy that can easily and clearly articulate his feelings about anything, let alone a girl! Hell, that applies to most adult men too.

Lots will happen in your life in this regard in coming months and years - and the emotional roller-coaster ride that it is is half the fun.

Continue to hang out with him and others that share your interests, move outside your comfort zone occasionally and explore things you might not otherwise explore. You'll make lots of friends, have lots of great experiences and guaranteed along the way fall in love more than once.

Above all, be true to yourself and honest and you usually can't go wrong.

...jim

Thanks for all your advise, guys. It really means... a lot. Really. I have yet to come to a conclusion, but your guidance has helped get me closer to one. Some memories have come up about him and I. He has joked around at the idea of us having chemistry, and other such things, but I think we were just joking. I don't know... I'll think of something. One day. Maybe.

Can someone tell me where Casper is?

Good news: I don't have to work tomorrow.

Bad news: I don't have to work tomorrow because we are expected to be hit by hurricane Emily. :shock:


~ng

eek! I told you there was a hurricane headed your way!!!

Good luck fending off the storm! Our thoughts r with you

GL from me too. I'd be scared if there was a hurricane headed my way. I'm just a wimp.

well, we're supposed to get torrential rains tonight... high winds tomorrow and possible flooding... so it's not that bad. I live on a hill so all the water will rush past my house, and hopefully not rest inside it. :wink:

~nicole g

i recall that being in the bible. haha, seems i get something out of church. oh, fables. i read, ''... floods. so it's not that bad." i was like, hmm. sarcasm? not that bad? flooding? we get no stirring weather here.